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I’m Over Product Parties

Product parties are SO DANGEROUS for your budget! This lady has learned her lesson and is sharing how to save your money instead of spending it all on Pampered Chef and Tupperware. What do you do when you are invited to a product party at a friend's house? Do you spend money? Do you buy things from your friends?

are those free snacks REALLY free?

are those free snacks REALLY free?

Mary Kay. Thirty One. Celebrating Home. Premier Jewelry. Lia Sophia. Tupperware. Uppercase Living. Longaberger Baskets. Pampered Chef. I swear, if I get one more Facebook invitation to one of these parties, I’m going to pull someone’s hair out.

For the uninitiated (lucky!), I’m talking about product parties. Companies that hire people – usually women – to shill their products at “fun” social events. They feed their “consultants” all kinds of crap about earning money in their spare time, setting their own hours, and spending more time with their families. While all those things are technically true, I have yet to meet anyone who sells this stuff full time. And I’m not sure the money is worth what you have to do to earn it.

If you aren’t a consultant for any of these companies, you probably have a friend who is. Which means you’ll be hit up to host a party, beg all your friends to attend, and get discounts on products! So…basically, I can bust my ass cleaning the house, buy and prepare a bunch of snack foods, then cross my fingers that all my friends spend hundreds of dollars so I can get a free tube of last season’s lipstick? Wow. Sounds like a fun time.

Why Product Parties are BAD for Overspenders

I distinctly remember going to a Celebrating Home party, back when it was still called Home Interiors. It was hosted by a frenemy who just lovedΒ rubbing her perfect life in my face. I was determined not to look like a cheapskate, so I broke out the credit card (after sneaking off to the bathroom to call and make sure I had available credit left). I spent nearly $300 on junk for my kitchen.

A few weeks later, when I received my fake plant, 2 prints, and coordinating potholders, I was so mad at myself. I could have bought similar items anywhere else for less than $100. But because consultants for these companies typically receive 20-50% of the purchase price, I paid extra just to impress a girl I didn’t even like. And she probably saved $40 on her thousand dollar purchase or something. It’s not like she ever even saw the things I bought.

Once I had those items, though, I wanted ALL the matching stuff!

So I spent the next year or two crashing product parties (no one ever minds because they want more freebies) on a quest to get the entire set. I charged over $700 to a credit card before the collection was abruptly discontinued. And you know what? Now that I think about it, that stuff was ugly as hell. Proof that overspenders and product parties do not mix, because we lack the impulse control to keep it simple.

The Grandaddy of Them All

As if all the hoopla about product parties wasn’t enough, I’ve noticed a new trend in the last few years – sex toy parties. Oh yes. You can wear penis-shaped tiaras and eat cupcakes with penis-shaped sprinkles, all while watching demonstrations of various objects you can shove up your hoo hoo. Then, just in case you weren’t uncomfortable enough, you can place orders for your favorites while the other attendees gossip about your unmet intimate needs!

I’m sorry – well, okay, I’m not – but REALLY?!?! I know we live in a social age, but is there nothing we won’t share with others? I’m not going to sit on my friend’s couch next to her mother-in-law, listening to some “consultant” talk about the features of one rubber penis over another (buy them both and get a free sample of lube!). NOT DOING IT.

Why would anyone want to do that when you can just log on to any given website and order them discreetly from home? I think online shopping was created for the things that are too embarrassing to buy in public. If you have made a purchase at a sex toy party, this is me judging you.

The Bottom Line

The economy still sucks. People are still broke. Personally, I think people should feel guilty for asking me to buy crap I don’t need just so they can earn discounts on cookware or jewelry. And to my real friends who know how hard I’m working to stop overspending, yet STILL choose to invite me? The next invitation you send could save you money on anal beads for life, courtesy of my right foot.

Do you feel obligated accept invitations to product parties? Are you a consultant who thinks I’m a horrible person for not playing along? Let me know what you think!

About Andrea Whitmer

Andrea is a freelance web developer and mom trying to maintain a sense of humor in an otherwise chaotic world. She blogs in hopes of helping others avoid the same mistakes she made in the past. Join in the discussion here on So Over This, or connect on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, or Google Plus. You can also subscribe to new posts via RSS so you never miss out!


  1. BTW, at a sex toy party you don't usually purchase in front of everyone else. When I had mine, she had a display in a different room and could order from her secretly.

    • That's the way it's been at the ones I've attended, too. But still, everyone knows why you're going in the other room and (in the case of the ones I've been to) gets a good laugh out of what you may or may not be buying.

  2. I have a draft post written about product parties too. I can't stand them. It's guilting people you know into buying things they either don't need or can get for a better price. I just don't go to them but the Facebook invites are out of control!

    • I haven't been to one in a long time. I wish there was a way to block invitations without blocking all invites from a certain person. I also hate the fact that I can't just remove the invite – now I have to RSVP "no" and I'm always scared of hurting someone's feelings.

  3. YES.  I often just say no thank you.

  4. I never go to them. I find myself pressed to buy something if a friend is hosting so better not to go.

  5. I'm the idiot who made the mistake of buying into Mary Kay. Yeah, it was a big mistake. I've never been suckered into product parties, and thankfully don't have many people I know who do them so I don't get invited a lot. In the past I've usually felt obligated to buy stuff but I think now I could easily say no, especially because I know how they work! But I agree, sometimes it's best to politely decline.
    Oh and about the sex toy parties? I had a new "friend" (my husband's coworker) who was a very uptight person, who invited me to a sex party. It was so awkward just being INVITED that I quickly made up an excuse as to why I couldn't go, even after she assured me that you order privately, and that they have lotions and things. Awkward. No. Thanks.

  6. I totally agree with you.  I have several friends who do these parties and if I go, I always feel obligated to buy something.  In our area, there are even organizations that group many of these vendors together now for fundraisers (my org did this in December) and many of the vendors then hit up the guests to host their own parties later.  It's a vicious cycle.

  7. I had never been in one, interested in one or wanting to attend one. But I got tricked into attending one by a customer and I couldn't say no (well, I DID say no, but had to attend anyway). I didn't buy anything. I was embarassed the whole time and I am not sure, but we both knew I wasn't gonna buy anything… I still respect them. I mean, it is some people's job, and if it works for them, fine. I'm just not their type of customer. (Am I the only one that has to work hard at posting a comment here? Usually have to refresh a few times, log in, log out, re-open the post…)

    • Someone else has trouble with comments from their work computer… I think Disqus just doesn't like some people. I do appreciate the effort you're willing to go to, though! πŸ™‚

      I think it would be horribly awkward to attend a party hosted by a customer – you don't want to offend them, yet you also don't want to buy stuff you don't need. 

  8. I avoid these like a plague–in fact I was shunned by a "friend" because I told her I would not be attending ever.  She made some crack about me being poor and I just let it go.  Thankfully that was all the way back in college. Now I just make up other commitments when I'm invited–it works out really well when I'm a few states away. I don't feel as guilty.

    • Wow, I cannot imagine having the balls to call someone poor, even when I was in college! What a bitch!!! I really hope you are no longer friends with that loser.

      I just usually ignore the invites, or say, "Sorry, I'm broke!" Luckily most people understand, and the ones that don't can kiss my butt.

  9. My roommate's sister-in-law does the jewelry product parties (Stella & Dot I think?) and kept bugging my roommate to let her have a party with all her friends.  My roommate told the SIL that her friends are young and broke so they'd only come for the free food (mostly true). SIL stopped bugging her after that πŸ™‚

    But yes, I always say no as well. After a bad experience in college with a salesman, I avoid people trying to convince me to purchase something I don't need.

    • I think that's what I'm going to start doing – just focusing on the free food and whether Friend A is making that dessert I really really like. Maybe if I go stuff my face a few times without buying anything, people will get the hint.

  10. OK I was seriously laughing at my desk at work. I can't imagine getting all my friends together to sell them sex toys at a party and then expecting them to buy stuff regardless of how private the ordering process was. I don't think I could effectively sell the stuff while that drunk. I think I'll stick with my local store or online ordering venue.
    I was suckered into attending a Lia Sophia party once. Given the fact that I wear one set of earrings and no other jewelry. I drank the liquor, ate the snacks and avoided the fat sales pitch. There was a lot of pressure to buy stuff. Thank God I was broke, and all the stuff looked tacky.

    • I really like jewelry, but Lia Sophia is SO overpriced. And I agree that it's tacky. If I want gaudy jewelry, I can get that at Claire's in the mall. 

    •  Possible tactic: Take cell-phone photos of your friends holding/looking at the various F–ckerware products. Threaten to post them on Facebook or mail them to parents and pastors unless purchases are made.
      It would work at least ONCE, anyway.

      • Most of my friends would retaliate with the sort of revenge that gives people nightmares. Although some of them might make purchases on their own, blackmail would be a bad idea lol.

  11. I hate product parties and product pushers. It would be one thing if my friends on facebook would post that they are selling "Product Wonderful" but they make post after post after post about "become a team member now and win 8 million candle warmers!" or "buy 8 today and join our team for $100 and recruit 100 people and all will be great!!!!" pyramid scheme. there I said it.

    • Totally agree with you. I have hidden so many people from my feed, I don't know how I have any friends left. If I wanted to sell any of that crap, I could post a status and I'm sure someone would fill me in within a minute or five.

  12. I may or may not have some experience in this area. And I may or may not have made plenty of money off parties like this. IF this happened it would have been over a decade ago.

    I don't buy from them at all. ever! Most of it isn't worth the cost. 

    • Some people are naturally good at selling, so I could see where it would be possible to make decent money. None of my friends are good at it, though!

      I would fail miserably – I wouldn't be able to keep myself from telling people things like, "You know, I saw this same thing at Target a lot cheaper!"

  13. Edward - Entry Level says

    I go to them (product parties in general, not sex toy parties!) because my wife would buy a lot more if I wasn't there. She always wants to sign up as a host, but we only have about 5 friends!

    One of my coworkers hosted a sex toy party over the weekend, which she thankfully didn't invite me (although that was probably because we only actually have seen each other half a dozen times since Christmas). Apparently the attendence worked out that there was 1 cop, and everybody else had spent at least 1 night in jail. #Awkward.

  14. Debgemologist says

    I refuse to attend those parties.  The one time I went to one I had no idea it was a product party until I got there, and because I rode with a friend I couldn't leave.  But even then, I made it clear that I did not realize it was a product party and I was not buying anything.  Period.

    What I can't figure out is why people feel like they have to have a "reason" for not going.  Hating those parties is definitely a good enough reason not to go, why not just say so?  By saying you're busy, or you just know your cat will be sick that day, or whatever, all you're doing is indicating that there is some kind of circumstance where you will in fact attend.  Intermittent reinforcement is the most powerful reinforcement of all and so you will be invited again.  And again.  And again.  And…then you're worn down and you go, even though you hate it and it pisses you off.

    Just say NO!!!  State clearly that you would rather trim your lawn with a pair of manicure scissors and that you will never EVER go to one of those parties, end of story.  If you lose your friend over that, then you know they were never your friend in the first place.  So you have a better idea of who your friends are and there was no possibility of being put in that situation of overspending on crap you don't need.  Win Win!!!

    • That's actually a really good approach. It would help prevent future invitations, too, once enough people are like, "Andrea told me she hates parties and refuses to attend. What an asshole!" I may have to try it.

  15. My ex-girlfriend is now working full-time for Mary Kay.  She's doing her best to make herself a director.  I'm not sure how much she's making, but I'm guessing she's doing okay as her husband works part time while going to school.  (It is worth noting that they moved away from San Diego to Texas, which was closer to home and where it's cheaper to live).

    So, I guess, working full-time at one of those places can be done (though it depends on how much you want to irritate everybody you know).

    • I know there are people who manage it (like all the old ladies with their pink Cadillacs), but I don't know anyone who is (a) that annoying and (b) that persistent. Most people I know give up pretty quickly, especially with Mary Kay because of the cost to get started.

  16. I'm young enough that I've never been invited to one of these parties… if I were, I would probably decline right away, rather than go and feel pressured into buying something I don't need.

  17. OH boy. Yeah — I'm taking a "no home sales party" policy. I've been to a few and they aren't fun anyway, and the stuff is overpriced. The "real" money is getting people to sign on as consultants under you, but it's a lousy business model. See pinktruth dot com for more on the Mary Kay aspect. 

    • I LOVE the pinktruth website! Ten years ago I was heavily considering selling Mary Kay, and I found that site. After reading all the horror stories, I have managed to survive all this time without getting involved with such a crappy organization.

  18. LOL! You crack me up Andrea.

    I agree. I don't care how much cheap, Walmart wine they're giving away… I refuse to go to those things. If I really want to get drunk and overspend, I'll do it on sitting in my own living room. πŸ™‚


    • Good point. Though I don't even want to talk about Amazon spending any more for awhile!

    • OMG – best comment I think I have ever read – exactly how I feel. I can find better deals surfing online at home using free shipping codes and whatever % codes I can find while drinking my own wine and not running to the bathroom to hide whenever i think the “consultant” is headed towards me with her little speech prepared as to why i would be the “most fun hostess! So lets pick a date to have your host at your house, shall we?”

  19. RestlessBBWoman says

    I hate these parties!  I've just made it part of "me" and say, "I'm sorry, I don't go to home parties."  That way I'm not ever expected to go.  Because really, the purpose is for your friends to make money off of you (no matter how much they say "you don't have to buy anything, just come have some snacks.")  I can get home decorating things at the TJ Maxx or Marshall's stores so much cheaper, or great smelling candles at Ross Stores for way under $10!  There are so many discount stores out there now that I'm surprised the home parties are still in business!

    • It cracks me up how EVERYONE says, "Oh, you don't have to buy anything; it'll be FUN!" Yet when the little presentation is over, everyone pulls out their checkbooks even though most of them are griping under their breath. No matter what people say, we all know we're expected to buy something. And it's usually crap.

  20. I've been a huge sucker for Pampered Chef in the past….then see the same freakin' product at Walmart for less than half.  We've also hosted product parties where we spend more on hosting the party than we "earned."  Someone in the house goes balls out when she throws an event.  Not dropping any names, but her name starts with "V" and rhymes with "Connie."

    I may, or may not admit to being willing to take on additional part time work,  give blood, or even get a paper route to earn additional income for the same nameless person to attend one of those sex toy parties.  You may continue judging, I don't mind at all.

    • That anonymous person sure needs be grounded! I hope you weren't talking about yourself because that could get embarrassing. πŸ˜‰

      The thought of taking on extra work to pay for sex toys is beyond my comprehension. I will just say you are a dedicated husband and leave it at that!

  21. I actually like attending the product parties. But I have never been one to give into impulse spending and such. I kind of do the rebellious thing, and do the OPPOSITE of whatever people are pressuring me to do. If they want me to spend, (unless I really want to) I'm not spending a dime. More free food and drinks for me please! 

    But I do understand the annoyance with constant party invitations and requests to attend parties to spend money. My least favorite are the Mary Kay "makeovers" also known as, taking all recently applied makeup off and looking pale-skinned to slap some random products on your face. Ick!

    • I went to a MK party one time where the consultant INSISTED we all take off our shoes and socks to try this home pedicure set. I hadn't shaved my legs in about 3 weeks and I seriously didn't want to do it. Finally she made me mad, so I pulled my pant leg up to my knee and said, "There! Want to rub the exfoliant on for me?" Come to think of it, that was the last MK party I attended. Can't imagine why…. πŸ˜‰

  22. Ugh – I got sucked into being a consultant for one of these companies when money was really tight – I bought the whole "added income" pitch. DUMB! It didn't last long.

  23. Ok…here's an opinion from the "other side".  I'm a … *gulp* Creative Memories Independent Consultant…scrapbooking and photo solutions in case you were wondering.  Please don't throw rotten fruit at me….
    Listen, to each his/her own.  I love going to product parties….not really for the products but more because it gives me a chance to get out of my house and away from the kids for a couple of hours, drink wine and hang with some great people. I occasionally buy something if I have some extra cash to spend…but like everyone, money is tight.  I don't feel bad saying "no thank you…not this time".  99.9% of the hostesses understand this and won't think twice. I decided to become a consultant for Creative Memories because I love to digitally scrapbook….I did it more for the 30-50% discount.  I work full time at a 8-6 job.  Of course my dream would be to make enough money from the Independent Consultant gig so I could stay home and play on the internet all day.  I make some decent money as a consultant and if I were to work this HARD full time, then maybe I could be bringing in some serious dough.  I know a lot of people who do (both men and women in this one) .but I'm not a "party" kind of gal and I refuse to hit up my friends and family to have parties.  If someone asks me then by all means I'll be happy to….but I hate asking people to.  It's just not me.  So I rely on word of mouth.  Luckily most people that scrapbook love Creative Memories products, so it kind of sells itself.  Anyway…the point is….yes…I can see where these product parties suck…but on the flip side – it helps ladies get out of the house and have a good time.  I see nothing wrong with that.  And for the record, I once sold sex toys and it was a BLAST.  The laughter and fun that comes from these types of parties made it all worth while.  I had friends who told me flat out, i won't go cause it'll make me uncomfortable…and that was fine.  If you aren't comfortable don't go….but if you want to have one of the funniest, silliest, pee-in-your-pants-from-laughing-so-much times, then go.  It's truly a great time and your partner will be THRILLED to see what you bought  :).  

    • It sounds like you have a good approach where many people don't (i.e. NOT pressuring your friends to host parties). Plus you're selling a product that I'm sure does very well on its own merit – I've always wanted to scrapbook, but I could see myself becoming absolutely obsessed and spending every dime I have. I will agree with you that it's great to get out of the house, but I'd rather do it in a situation where I can just drink the alcohol without feeling like I'm expected to buy something. πŸ™‚

  24. My sister totally sells that Scentsy stuff.  She's a terrible sales person/business person (which she would admit) so it's always pretty much low pressure.  She's also doing it part-time, and I think it's one of those things where it is a hobby above all else.  People who do it full-time probably have a lot more incentive to sell that stuff like its a used car.

    As for a sex toy party – LOL.  That's the most awkward thing I could ever imagine.

  25. The worst!!!  God, I get all fired up just thinking about them.  AND, I  have had so many co-workers who still try to sell me things despite there being an explicit ban on such activity in the workplace.  Of course, I had another job where they actually had a product party during the work day:


  26. Kimjadezoe says

    This was from a girl on my facebook today that made me die laughing: "My 'ah ha' moment: I'm not selling make-up. I'm selling the dream of Mary Kay. Providing women with a great opportunity to be successful, Christian women."

  27. My wife gets invited to these types of meetings.  Many times she does not want to go but still goes because her close friends may be hosting.

  28. I had one of the sex toy parties for my 26th birthday and it was a riot.. and I didn’t overspend because I got a discount after everyone else bought haha

    I went to a jewelry party a few months ago… seriously a jewelry party… I didn’t buy anything, so it was pretty fun.

  29. When my son was born 9 yrs ago part of the deal of me not going back to work was no going to parties and no having parties. Had to watch what we spent and did not need to spend our money on things we did not need. It has worked well and everyone understands in order to be a stay at home mom we have to watch our $$$.  My mil and her sister started selling 31, bought a few things but i am done and over that, did not go over board but did help them as my husband thought i should.  The funny thing is they both have enough funds they do not need to be doing this and I am the poor one.  lol

  30. I've never been invited to one but my mom definitely has! We used to laugh at the ridiculous catalogs for one of the food ones, can't remember the name. I used to know someone pretty high up in Herbalife…they gave me a couple boxes worth of product. I'd STILL never pay for the stuff. I can't stand MLM!

  31. We get invitations to all kinds of these parties through our daycare.  Don't underestimate the obligitory feeling of getting your invitations from friends and family.  In fact, I think that's what makes the parties so successful. 

    Those sex toy parties sound a lot like the beginning of a porn movie though.  Maybe that's where they got the idea?

  32. LOL.

    Lucky for me these things don't happen on my little island. At least not that I know of. Even if they did though, I doubt they would offer anything that would make me want to attend.

  33. Sammyleia says

    I once was a consultant for a party plan business but gave it up as the amount I earned wasn't enough for the time, effort and petrol I spent preparing for and getting to and from parties. Also I hate feeling obligated to buy something at a party, so how was I going to coerce someone to buy my stuff without feeling guilty?! It didn't feel right so I stopped being a consultant, and a try to avoid going to product parties now.

  34. Cristina says

    I am a consultant with Mary Kay and there is no pressuring to buy or be a team member! People who want to have parties have parties! If you would not like to buy or would like to attend then there is no presuure to do so! I know may consultants with other companies, Scentsy, Premier Jewlery, etc. who do it Full Time and have parties because they love the products and stand behind what they believe in!

    • So you're telling me that all these consultants would keep having parties even if no one bought everything? I've never been to one where there was no expectation that people would buy things.

  35. JELOPEZ88 says

    Your post had me laughing so hard, I might have trouble getting to sleep tonight. It was quite stimulating to read. Yes, I will admit I was suckered into one of those obnoxious parties with AMWAY a few years ago. It seems everyone wants to be your best buddy and either get you to purchase the company's products or become an "independent distributor". Either way, your contact hardly gives you any "breathing space" with incessant phone calls and emails. I did the best thing possible – told them to take a hike. Next time I might threaten to shove the products in a place where the sun don't shine.

  36. The best and funniest thing I've read in ages! Thank you

  37. My sister has had almost everyone of these parties. I’m 10 yrs younger so I always had the excuse of not being able to afford anything. But at her lia Sophia party the consultant turned me right off! I didn’t want to buy anything because it is cheaply made ugly costume jewelry. But instead of saying that, I told her that I have enough money to fill my car with gas and buy lunch. Her response “we accept credit card”.

    I’ve been vocal about my dislike of these parties as a preemptive strike for any future invites. But a couple slip through…. My friends always say you don’t have to buy anything. But why waste the consult’s time? I just avoid them altogether!

  38. Premier Diva says

    I absolutely love going to home parties! Not interested in the ‘intimate’ toy parties, though. Getting the gals together is becoming harder to do these days, and no amount of facebooking could ever replace face-to-face conversation. I love visiting and laughing and learning. Most mlm home-based product parties are very high quality products. You cannot get the same level of service at Target or Wal-Mart or even Macy’s. We work our diva-fannies off to service our hostesses and customers. We are trained on a regular basis and strive to stay up-to-date on fashions and trends, and, technology. Yes, you can get a similar product at Target, but if you saw how these items are actually made and tested, you might change your mind.

    And what difference does it make if you go to a friend’s house and purchase something, or go with a friend shopping and hand your money over to a stranger? Wouldn’t you rather help a friend? I would, for sure. No one is ‘using’ you. That is a cop-out. You have been invited. You hold the power to say no. No need to get angry about it. I don’t get invited to enough home parties. I miss Tupperware around here. Haven’t seen or heard of a party in years.

    MLM consultants are bending over backwards to stay on top of tech trends while still trying to help their hostesses get as much free or discounted product as possible. Everyone has the same opportunity. I love doing my Premier Designs shows. It’s amazing how you can change a women’s perspective on her own self-worth. Accessorizing is ‘da bomb.’

    • Premier Diva, don’t know where you’re at hun, but I am a Tupperware lady. I’m in Missouri, but if you love Tupperware like I do (I really DO), I can help you out with your needs, or I can find you a Tupperware consultant closer to you so you can have a party! Just email me!

  39. I am right there with you on the sex toy parties! The thing that I hate is when you work in a female-dominated field, inevitably there is at least one of your co-workers throwing these “parties” on a regular basis. If you’re the new kid on the block then you feel pressured to attend because you want to get to know and bond with your co-workers. However, I am keenly aware of office politics and those who appear to be your friend (or potential friend) initially may in fact, turn out be back-stabbers and are these the type of people you want gossiping about your “intimate purchases” or lack there of? (Prude?) I have been stuck in this dilemma before and I’ve often felt the ripple effect of not attending. You’re the outsider and you always will be because you haven’t spent any time with co workers outside of work and because you haven’t attended these parties you must be judging the ones who have, right? It doesn’t matter what the reality of the situation is, only the prevailing perception. I wish that more workplaces would institute policies against these type of “get togethers” but even if they did, it would probably be difficult to enforce given the avenues of social media for which these invites can be sent.

  40. This is fantastic! I enjoy product parties, but only if it’s something I’m interested in. I am actually going to a doterra party tomorrow, but only because I’m interested in learning about essential oils. I’m pretty adamant about not buying, however, because I know how expensive a tiny bottle of that stuff will be. I’m looking at it as a free “intro class” to oils. Other parties I’ve been to, I tend to buy the things I want and will actually use, and then I’m done, and will probably never buy from that person/company again. The exceptions being scentsy (store bought melts just don’t last as long for me and I like the variety) and a company called lemongrass spa. It’s all natural handmade makeup / bath products (I make some of my own, but for things I don’t have patience for, like mascara, I will spend the money on). But even then, a lot of similar products can be purchased from Lush and I’ll only buy what I can’t find comparable in store.

  41. I’m a consultant! Just want to put my two cents in. It doesn’t bother me at all that MOST of my friends and family do not want what I am selling. But I do have a good customer base of people outside my “circle” that do REALLY enjoy it.
    Starting out in the direct selling business is so nerve wracking at first because you are trying to sort out who will but because they support YOU, who will buy because they LOVE the product, and who is really not interested. So much of the time there is a whole lot of people we know that are in “limbo” from those categories because they dodge around you with “maybes”. We hate the word “maybe” or being ignored worse than “NO” and it doesn’t put you in the uninterested list necessarily in our minds. So do us both a favor when you get that invite and tell us you’re not interested! I personally am so relieved to know so that I don’t bug friends who truly don’t want it. And it doesn’t bother me.

  42. Nope, you are not a horrible person at all. I do sell items, but I refuse to bother people. I do it because I like the products and like to help people who are interested save money on specials, but I never try to guilt anyone. I hate feeling like that, so I refuse to make people feel pressured. I work full-time in a job I love, so this is really and truly a “hobby.” If someone in my closed customer group is interested in hosting a party to earn items or wants to take advantage of a special, that’s awesome! I want them to save money more than I worry about making money. I’m just weird, I guess.

  43. Angela Statton-Hunt says

    I have sold everything encyclopedias door to door in Houston Texas, vacuum cleaners, MaryKay, businesses, Authors/Their books, and currently sell Tupperware. Here’s the thing, there’s nothing wrong with saying NO. Those in sales, and I mean any kind of sales would prefer for you to say NO, if you don’t want to hold a party say NO, if you don’t want to place an order say NO! People that hem ha, say maybe, or say yes but don’t want to do anything are WAY worse than those that just say NO! Hem HA =they probably want the product but can’t afford to buy it themselves, but they don’t really want to go to the extra effort to hold a party to get the product at a discount or free. Maybe = I want the product and I could probably pay for it, but I am busy and I don’t know when I would have time for a party, however, I would like to get it at a discount or free. Yes, but don’t really want to = The worst. I have never had to work so hard in my life to help someone get discounted or free product as with a person that says yes to holding a party but doesn’t really want to. My goal with every party is to get you free product. I focus on my host/hostess, because when you do that the sales will come. When you have someone that won’t even try in the least , it’s so frustrating. Then you have a host like my last party that really wanted the product, I explained everything up front (like I always do), it’s not easy to earn some of these hostess specials. She worked at getting outside orders, she over invited to the party, and she got more outside order after the party was over. She got the set she wanted, and more. Oh, and she didn’t pay a dime. So just go into it with your eyes open, be honest, say NO or say YES (but make sure you completely understand what it’s going to take). With a product like Tupperware that has lifetime warranties, and truly makes peoples lives easier, saves them time and money, I am very happy to be selling it. Am I getting rich nope, but I made enough to repair my daughter’s broken tooth this month, since we don’t have dental insurance it has been a big help. There are people that make a lot of money, most make an extra 100-1000 a month. Right now, we don’t have extra, we have making it, but barely, so when I have extra to take care of cars breaking down, or I can pay off a medical bill, or get a tooth fixed, it’s a pretty special thing to me. Oh and other than the initial $35.00 to get my kit I haven’t paid anything out of my own pocket, anything I need for my business has come out of profits from that business, just like any other business you have to spend money to make money. It’s not a get rich quick thing, any kind of sales is hard work, but it does allow me to make my families life a little easier. So, if you don’t want the product , or don’t want to have a party, please say NO! It saves me so much time I would rather be spending on those that really want it.

  44. I am definitely late to this party! I attended my first one yesterday. A good friend hosted it and I thought it would be fun to visit, but I wouldn’t buy anything. Well, only five people, including myself, showed up. I was late and they waited until I arrived to start the show. I won all the “games”. In the end I paid for them. I stalled as long as I could, thumbing through a catalog of overpriced goods, none of which I wanted. I was informed that my friend, the hostess, would win “rewards” if we purchased items. And so, long story short, I allowed myself to be pressured into buying a dusting mitt I didn’t need. It’s not really the expense that bothers me so much the resentment I feel about doing something I really didn’t want to do. I’m thinking of confronting my friend honestly and telling her sharing this resentment so it will dissipate, but maybe I will just chalk it up as experience and vote with my feet and never do it again.

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