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I Think My Brain Fell Out

For the first time in 18 months, I didn’t have a Wednesday post scheduled when I went to bed on Tuesday night. Not because I forgot, but because I simply can’t organize my thoughts enough to decide what I want to say.

Last night I sent about 20 posts to the trash because they made no sense and/or I hated the topics. And I just erased about 5 paragraphs of whiny drivel because no one wants to hear it. We all struggle, we’re all busy, and I don’t feel like I have the right to bitch and moan when things could be so much worse. My life is stressful right now but it won’t be that way forever.

I’ll gather my brain cells between now and Friday. In the meantime, any great stress relief tips for the chronically overwhelmed?


About Andrea Whitmer

Andrea is a freelance web developer and mom trying to maintain a sense of humor in an otherwise chaotic world. She blogs in hopes of helping others avoid the same mistakes she made in the past. Join in the discussion here on So Over This, or connect on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, or Google Plus. You can also subscribe to new posts via RSS so you never miss out!


  1. I'm in the same boat! No recent posts from me because I *know* I've done stuff lately, but just not sure what. No great stress relief tips from me, unfortunately. What helps me is going for a walk, having a drink, or sometimes just zoning out over at Buzzfeed. We shall we you more on Friday! 🙂

    • Having a drink is definitely a thought! That might help. And Buzzfeed isn't a bad idea either. *prepares to waste entire day looking at random lists of funny things*

  2. Ugh, I've been there. My best advice is to take a mini break for a few days and come back refreshed.

    • Unfortunately I can't take a break from work… I don't know if a blogging break would make things better or worse since my traffic has been down in the last week or so – I feel like people can tell when I'm forcing it, yet I want to force it so they don't all disappear!

  3. Cookies! I swear sugar to the brain always works.

  4. need a guest post?

  5. walk away. for an hour. for a day. whatever you think your schedule would allow. or just walk away and come back when you feel better. go take a long hot shower….watch a movie….just chill. Dont worry about deadlines, cleaning or even dinner.

    Easier said then done yes? I know i have HUGE issues with anxiety stupid little things become HUGE things so i just take a chill day or afternoon and leave it alone. When i come back my head is clear and i can tackle the important things first and do it all effectively!!

    • I've done that a couple of times and it helps during the break (though not so much afterward when I come back and see all the stuff I still need to do!)

      I always wonder what it would be like not to deal with anxiety… I can't decide if it would be better or not!

  6. I know how you feel! I've been feeling the same way constantly for a couple of weeks.

  7. I've been there too… except mine lasted for a month. Eventually I found it. Turns out my wife was right… it WAS stuck so far up my ___ that I could see "out my mouth."

    Fortunately you found yours quickly…

    • Well, I hope so. I REALLY want to whine and freak out and wallow for awhile, but know it's a waste of time so I'm trying not to. Still, it's good to know I'm not the only one who freaks out!

  8. Release the tension by talking or writing. At least it helps me. You may not publish any of it, but write it down and start a journal. It really helps me release any thing I am obsessing over and don't know. I started a blog/journal just for me. I whine, do whatever I feel like because it is just for me.

    Other than that, find someone to guest post, go for a walk, get a massage or just be. Sometimes just letting my mind rest let's me come back to whatever I was stressing about clear and ready to go.

    • That's a really good idea! I used to keep a personal journal – I have stacks of my old ones on my bookshelf. Somewhere along the way I kind of gave up on it, but maybe I should try again.

  9. Take a break. Do things outside. Come back refreshed! 🙂

  10. Fresh air works for me too! Hope you feel less stressed very soon 🙂

  11. I think the best stress reliever for you will hopefully be fincon!

  12. ha. I know how you feel.

    And sadly I have no suggestions. Lol If you figure out a way to shake the stress, let me know, I'm too busy for my own good too!

  13. bluecollarworkman says:

    Nope, no stress relief tips. But dude, you're allowed to whine and vent sometimes. We'd be okay with it every now and then. Becuase yeah, we're all busy and stressed with tons to do, but that's how a lot of us connect, right? By talking about our busyness. No worries, no worries.

  14. Takes some time off (organising this one can be a bit tricky for bloggers but not impossible), I did – for several weeks now I have been doing little, reading novels, running and swimming and sitting in coffee bars admiring good looking people. Just about starting to feel restored. Worth a try!

  15. Go to Walmart. You can always find a good story there! Ponder on the next UK basketball season and wonder if we can repeat. Do you ever get to go to games? Otherwise, margaritas work really well for stress.

  16. seedebtrun says:

    Massage…and a pedicure! If I were super stressed (and not thinking about money), that's what I would love to do! I haven't paid for a massage since our honeymoon, but I have friends who go weekly! And the pedicure? I don't know why, but there's something about having pretty toes that just makes everything easier to deal with. 🙂

  17. thefrugaltoad says:

    I go ride my bike and work up a sweat! Helps me to take my mind off of things and I feel refreshed after!

  18. start dating again!

  19. I completely understand – I've skipped a couple of days recently because I'm either a) out of time, or b) out of ideas.

    Stress relief ideas? I see alcohol, sugar, and exercise all listed above. Good options. 🙂 But how do you feel about guns? Maybe a little target practice would work out some stress? Just please, leave the alcohol until after the shooting…. 😉

  20. I can definitely relate! What helps me is actually reading a fiction book. I'm not sure if you're a big reader or not, but I find that getting kind of "lost" in another world actually releases some tension from my mind and I can come back to things feeling like I have 2 brain cells to rub together 🙂 Hang in there! And don't worry about keeping up on blog posts for the sake of readership – we'll be here waiting!

  21. It is probably impossible :), but I suggest taking a day away from everything to just relax and do what you want. You will come back refreshed and energized and excited to work.

  22. Forget the sugar and alcohol! I'd go with anything relaxing, so a massage (if getting away for a couple of hours won't stress you out or maybe a nap. Getting more sleep can work wonders. Also, maybe some type of exercise that puts you in a really good mood…my personal favorite…Zumba!

  23. I think all bloggers reach this moment at some point. Best to just live life and come back to it later (though easier said than done when it's your fulltime job!)

  24. teinegurl says:

    How about a links post? that way you have a post but not to much work. Am i a bad reader if i never noticed you keep a schedule for posting? interesting lol

  25. teinegurl says:

    oh do you take reader stories? I may come up with something

  26. teinegurl says:

    What about 'ask andrea' segment?

  27. I went through this, too! For some reason this semester got to me…but I think I've recovered. 🙂

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